This week, I got to talking with a friend about attraction and such. It was an interesting discussion, one that led in the usual manner, but went a bit deeper (which is always a bonus!). We talked about "specifics", you know, like what people generally look for...the talk, dark handsom type. But then this got me thinking more. When we look for specifics, everyone will come off not good enough. Seriously, how would you feel if someone turned their direction because one or two specifics didnt quite fit? Worthless comes to mind.. How much better would life be if we weren't searching for perfection? How much better would life be if we embraced brokenness and faults?
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Today at uni, I got to listen to a man in his mid 70's talk with the most amazing joy about his adorable wife of 50 years. It was actually the highlight of my week. Words like 'beautiful', 'loving', and 'matchless' rolled off his tongue with sincerity.
Of course, their lives wouldn't have been perfect, but their limitless love for each other was unmistakable.
It was beautiful.
How much are we missing out on by putting up specifics, or limits? This can be applied to anything, this was purely an example from my week.
Im slowly trying to remove the limits I put up in my life, the specifics Im looking at so life might turn out perfect. Because if we expect perfection, we're only setting ourselves up for disappointment.
Good thoughts Beckie! I agree that it is better not to condition yourself to expect a certain outcome. I think we will be attracted to certain looks but ultimately as Paul Windsor wrote in one of his blog posts, http://paulwindsor.blogspot.com/2009/06/cancer-and-marriage.html, "fuzzy thinking will lead to fussy behaviour". You should check it out :)
ReplyDeleteHey thanks Cam for reading and for commenting! I'll go check out Paul's blog..I've heard good things...!
ReplyDeleteYou're beautiful Beckie!
ReplyDeleteI agree, if we didn't look so hard at finding something specific, we'd have a much nicer place.
ReplyDeleteThen again, people can't help but want perfection. I know I'd rather have something perfect than something defected. But that's the amazing thing about love, it lets you see past things, and lets you see something other than a fault.
I think if people focussed more on the good things than the bad things, the world would be a less hateful place.
I'm the opposite, i'm attracted to people that others see with 'faults'. Apparently its called being a 'rescuer'. I dont care, I love it, and I hate how people do turn their heads or show no acknowledement based on a outward appearance. I can get quite heated about this, so wont go too much more into it. But yea, agree with you on it beckie. Perfection is overrated, if it were even possible in the first place.
ReplyDeleteThe annonymous comment, i bet it's from lys. She's awesome with short awesome comments like that :)